“Loving someone, sharing yourself completely and building a life together is, in my opinion, one of the greatest of life’s adventures. Truly. But, like all adventures, there will be those moments when your plans or expectations don’t match up with the reality. Let’s be honest, camping isn’t always as spectacular as we had built up in our heads. You know I’m right. And so is love. Don’t get me wrong, I will always profess it is unimaginably wonderful, but you must also understand that when you love someone, you may not love them all the time, in exactly the same way, every single moment of the day. It is an impossibility. You’ll only set yourself up for heartache if you even anticipate you will. And yet, this is exactly what most of us expect. We are so hesitant to believe in the natural process of love’s ebb and flow. The inherent surge and lull of any relationship. We are terrified it will never return. We insist on permanency, on consistency; when in reality, the only consistency possible is belief in each other. Belief that silence isn’t the preamble to something devastating. And, the only real permanency is not in constant attention, nor in unrealistic expectations, but simply in faith. Faith that through the thick and thin - growth. Knowing that tough times will only bring you closer. Seeing negatives or setbacks as glue that binds. Sincerely and honestly loving someone lies neither in looking back to what was in the past, nor forward to what it might be, but living in the here and now. Accepting your relationship as it is without expectations or comparisons. Loving someone is camping. If you go in knowing that the bed will probably be uncomfortable and the weather might be shit, you can also trust that eventually you’ll be back in your own comfortable-as-hell bed; most likely laughing with each other and planning your next adventure.”
— daily-esprit-descalier